We all need reminders that life on this Earth is worth living. For example, at Mass, I’ll frequently get a better idea of what Love is by watching the children with their parents than by listening to the homily. Any priest worth his salt would probably agree.
The best reminders are usually commonplace, A beautiful sunset, singing birds, a well-played baseball game, dessert. In the Reminders Class is sex. It is how I connect and relate. If or when that physical relationship with our Lovers diminishes or disappears, the loss is agonizing. I caressed Mrs CorC?’s thigh the other night as we lay together in bed. She rebuffed the gesture, but emphatically stated “I love you!” I have been living with the sting since that moment. Truth be told, she doesn’t “do” love “that way”, through expressions of physical affection. In the wake of each rejection, a quest for validation, joy, and fun begins. I’m a master at sublimation; a long swim, a good meal, a beautiful novel. A Rosary, quietly prayed, opens another channel for Love to come in. So deep night finds me alone with the beads.
I read of husbands and wives who keep the flame of sexual love alive. You give hope to me.