I just texted my surviving ex-wife, mother of my elder son and wished her a Happy Mother’s Day. My other ex-wife, mother of my younger son, has been dead for three and a half years. I have no ideaof the whereabouts of #2 son’s birth mother .

My wife has been a wonderful stepmother to my 2 sons, especially the younger one.

It’s complicated. When I was a boy at Third Presbyterian Church, a red carnation was worn if your mother was living, a white carnation, if deceased. That was simple. Now we have mothers, stepmothers, surrogate mothers, households with two female parents, households with two male parents. I dunno. Somehow those carnations seem inadequate or incomplete.

Anyway, if Mother rings true for you, Happy Mother’s Day.